Well im sure if you read my last post ... you understand that my BF and i had a rough last weekend! Well after days of not talking and sleeping in seperate rooms, eating alone etc. We decided to call a truths... and get out of the house for a much needed vacation. So we packed up and went to the lake. It was a great time and extrememly relaxing for the most part. It was my daughter's first time at the lake and i think she enjoyed it. I appreciate all of the advice and responses to my marriage post. It has helped me to see all different opinions and view points!
What i learned this week is that i absolutely need to work on my stubborn personality. The fact that i will argue until im blue in the face in order to avoid admitting i am wrong. I also need to pick and choose my battles... (not to be confused with being taken advantage of)...but biting my toungue at times and just making an honest effort at making my honey happy.
There are a lot of thing about him i do not like or agree with... HOWEVER... this is the person i have chosen to be with ... so for the sake of our relationship and my daughters sanity... i need to try and live with these "annoyances" and work on mine as well.
What i learned this week is that i absolutely need to work on my stubborn personality. The fact that i will argue until im blue in the face in order to avoid admitting i am wrong. I also need to pick and choose my battles... (not to be confused with being taken advantage of)...but biting my toungue at times and just making an honest effort at making my honey happy.
There are a lot of thing about him i do not like or agree with... HOWEVER... this is the person i have chosen to be with ... so for the sake of our relationship and my daughters sanity... i need to try and live with these "annoyances" and work on mine as well.
Sometimes I wonder if men and women really suit each other. Perhaps they should live next door and just visit now and then. ~Katherine Hepburn
As much as i agree with this on a regular basis ... there wouldnt be anyone there on a regular basis to make me laugh. This is the most important thing.
Happy Monday everyone!!!
7 comments:
I'm glad you guys are working it out. The hardest part of a relationship is figuring out what you can live with and what you can't...and figuring out what part you play in the whole thing. It's hard to face the fact that you are stubborn...TRUST me, I know how that is :)
Just one gentle word...annoyance...living them is all well and good, but over time, those little annoyances can get to be BIG annoyances and you do need to ask yourself, will you be able to live with them 10, 20 years from now??
Glad to hear things turned around and you had a good time at the lake.
And YES... there IS a difference between 'chosing your battles' & being 'taken advantage of'. However when you need to discuss 'being taken advantage of' with the one guilty of it - just try not to make it a 'battle'.
I still have not conquered this task. So if you are able to figure it out in the near future, fill me in to your secret :)
Hey girl, I just wanted to recommend that you and your boyfriend read "the five love languages" It is a REALLY great book. It will help you guys to see what needs the other one has, and what is more important to you isn't always what is important to him. It really helped open up mine and Kevin's eyes. Wish I had our copy to send to you, but we have already passed it on! Such a great book!
Keep up the good work...remember you can only change yourself, not the other person. :o) I know easier said than done!
Glad to hear you all worked things out. Check out "The Love Dare" workbook. It really helped my marriage!
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