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Wednesday, July 21, 2010

Not so wordless Wednesday: Best Friends

Last week I received a shocking picture message from my mom. She had shaved her head.
Now before you think wow shes crazy or images of Britney Spears start flashing in your mind let me explain why.



About a month ago her life long best Friend was diagnosed with Breast Cancer. This friend lives over an hour away and has kids who are all grown and out of the house. My mother who in my mind is one of the strongest women i know... selflessly volunteered to drive her to chemo and sit with her through any and all doctors appointments. It wasn't until my mom received a call from her friend crying. She had began to lose her hair. This is a common effect of chemotherapy, but one of the most dreaded and i think harder to deal with once it actually happens. My mom called me telling my sister and I about the conversation. When talking to my sister she was given one piece of valuable advice... "Mom, you only get one chance to impact someones life, Take it!" The next morning on her way to chemotherapy she saw a salon and impulsively pulled in. Despite the looks of confusion and judgmental stares she sat in the chair and removed her hair.

When she arrived at the chemotherapy appointment she describes her friends reaction as instant surprise followed by a whirlwind of emotions and disbelief. Her friends family said that she had shaved her hair herself and had tried to cover it with an old scarf, she cried all night and hadn't taken the scarf off, not even to go to bed. When my mom and her had a moment alone she finally removed the scarf crying she asked my mom for help to retie it correctly. It was at this moment my mom knew she had done the right thing. She had given her friend one ounce of comfort through this horrible situation.


It has been a difficult adjustment for the family as well as my mom. She has had days ending in tears. She has experienced some cruel behavior that has baffled us all. One women actually asked her if she was some sort of religion and when she replied no the women laughed hysterically at her and walked away without any further explanation from my mom. When she is not dealing with staring, new found "compassion" because they think she is the one who is sick, or judgmental comments from those who are not understanding she is dealing with little frustrations like learning how to tie a scarf.



This has if nothing else impacted the family by making us rethink how we look at others, how we judge without knowing or understanding what the circumstances are and reconsidering exactly what we can do or give to people. I have a 4 yr old brother that after a few days of getting used to it and asking repeatedly every morning "Did your hair come back yet mommy?" he asked her "Mom, is your hair all you can give her to make her feel better?"

This has been one tragic circumstance turned into one amazing life long lesson for our entire family. I thank God everyday for such a strong mother. She continues to amaze us with her strength everyday and this is in fact one of her greatest achievements and testaments of her faith in God. Let us all rethink our judgments and reconsider what we can do for someone else.

"you only get one chance to impact someones life, Take it!"



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39 comments:

Charity said...

crying now~ Give your mom a big hug and her friend a bigger hug!

ashlesmommy said...

WOW! You have an amazing mom. I will keep her friend in my prayers. It is sad how judgemental people can be, meaning to or not. Hopefully this will make people think twice, thanks for sharing :o)

ilovemyhouse said...

Your mum is the best.To do something like that for a friend.... no words to describe how amazing this is. Please give her and her friend lots of hugs.

XX

Roger said...

Congradulations to your moms friend for having a friend like your mom.
I see by the picture it has put smiles on both their faces. That alone, I understand, will help with the healing process.

Tiffany said...

Your mom is an amazing woman and by her faith and friendship she is showing those around her the work of God. Thank you for sharing this part of your life. You all are truly blessed to have your mom. Should she be an inspiration to us all.

♥Cari♥ said...

That is amazing and brought tears to my eye. Thanks for sharing :)

This Daddy said...

That is awesome for your mom to be such a great friend and to share herself with the woman (her friend) I cant think of a better way for your mom to show her love for her friend.

Chelsea Pearl said...

this is an amazing story. I will be praying for your mom's friend. I hope she gets through this. Having a friend like your mom will make it that much easier.

Lindsay Thomas said...

That is SO amazing. Simply amazing.

Busy Working Mama said...

Oh that is so wonderful, I am actually sitting here with tears in my life! What an amazing gesture!

Emily said...

What a beautiful story--thanks for sharing this with us. Sounds like your mom is an amazing lady. Thanks for stopping by my blog today, too. I'm following you back!

Meghan Cooper said...

That's amazing, I'd totally do it for a friend or my mother as well! Good for her!

Theresa said...

I'm visiting and following from FMBT!!

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Ashley Trebitowski said...

This was an amazing post! Your mother is a great example to all of us! I cried while reading this. Thank you so much for sharing

Mommy Of A Jamexican said...

seriuosly made me cry!... My mom is in chemo now... Your mother is amazing!

Katie said...

Your mom sounds like an amazing person.
My mom had breast cancer 5 years ago and is lucky to have survived and is still currently beating it.
I've enjoyed reading your blog for the last couple hours. :)
Newest follower from Welcome Wednesday. :)

*~Petra~* said...

Your mom is so selfless. What a wonderful example. ♥ to her.

kristen said...

What an amazing story! I am in tears right now. Go her for being so courageous and selfless. I am glad you posted about this, we all need to be more like your momma! :)

Tracy F. said...

That is truly an amazing thing that your Mom did. I donated my hair a few years ago to Locks of Love but I still had some hair when I walked out.

Thanks so much for visiting my blog and commenting. I am now one of your followers!

Tracy
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LovelyBee said...

Your mom is such an amazing woman. Im your newest follower from Welcome Wednesdays.

Vivianne's Vista said...

Very few people would do what your mom did and there are no words to describe how selfless and amazing it was for her to do that. What a life lesson. Thank you for such an inspirational post.

I also want to thank you for stopping by my blog. I'm happy to return the follow! Hope to see you at Vivianne's Vista.

Cameron said...

I cried through this whole post. Your mom sounds amazing.

On a side note, your new changes look great! I like the sidebars on either side & everything looks a lot more simple & clean!!

Jen Watts said...

What a wonderful mommy you have!

Amanda said...

What an amazing mother you have! Such an inspiring story. I will say a prayer for your mom's friend.

I'm following you from Welcome Wednesday! I'm glad I found this story because it's so uplifting.

Amanda
http://notyetinvented.blogspot.com

Jamie Danielle said...

I really wished I could see to type.
Your mom is amazing!

The Scrappin Mammaw said...

that is an awesome story about your mom! Love your blog! Following you thru the Thursday blog hop! Hope you visit me soon!

Punken said...

Wow! This post brought tears to my eyes. My aunt was diagnosed with breast cancer in October 1999. She has 2 sons who couldn't be bothered when their mom needed them the most. I stepped up and went to all but 1 of her chemo appointments with her. Sitting there with her was tough enough but your mom took it 1 step further...that is unconditional love!

PS 11 years later my Aunt is cancer free! I hope the same is true for your mom's friend!

deanna said...

so sweet.
xoxoxo
ps following back at ya!

AubreyRose @ My Simple Everyday said...

Yes, i'm speechless by the amount of selflessness your mom has. Such a sweet story.

Linkie Lueville said...

WOW! Your mom is an AMAZING friend. we should all be so lucky.

I'm a new follower from Trendy Treehouse. Your blog is SO cute!

http://linkielueville.blogspot.com/

1milliondollarchallenge said...

I love that your mum did this. My mum died from cancer 10 years ago.

After her last operation, being told there was nothing more the Dr's could do was devastating. When we went to church that week, many of the men who were going bald but were oh so protective of the little amount they had left had shaved their heads in support of mum. She couldn't believe it.

It is the ultimate show of support.

I am also amazed at how cruel people can be. I had one guy tell me my mum looked like a fire hydrant, I looked him straight in the eye and said, she's bald coz she has cancer. He didn't know what to say.


Now, that I have waffled on, I'll finish with I really like your blog! :)

Stacie said...

Great post, that's so thoughtful of your mom to stand by her friend this way. I hope they continue to give each other the strength they need!

Heather said...

that is amazing :) your mom is beautiful!!!

Jenn @ WestSacHoney said...

Wow I just found your blog as I saw you were a follower of mine reading this brought tears to my eyes you mom is one extraordinary woman to be so giving and supportive of her best friend. Especially reading how someone asked if that was her religion people need to stop pre-judging someone because I doubt they would ever do that for their friend. Kudos to her that's great!

Tawnya said...

Wow, what a story. It made me cry. Your mother is an amazing woman!

Jen said...

Just found your blog; and love it!

My mom is a 10 year cancer free breast cancer survivor and it killed me when she lost all her hair. Your mom is an amazing woman

Dana said...

What a beautiful story! How inspiring...

Love your blog and will for sure be on the list next Friday for the linky list!

Jen said...

What a beautiful post and a great lesson to be learned by all. Your mom rocks and I am sure her friend loves and appreciates her more than words can ever say. I have loved reading your blog and catching up on your beautiful family! Thanks for stopping by mine as well :-)

SmartShopaholic said...

Your mom sounds amazing! :) I have been enjoying reading your blog and am your newest follower.

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