What is a Neglectful Parent?

This post is going to be brutally honest.

Yesterday i woke up to police on my door step and all up and down my street. The officer said a women was driving to work and saw something weird on a dirt road near my house. So she pulled over. It was a little boy who was between the ages of 1 and 2. He was found with a large pit bull and the neighbors had said we were the only family they knew of children that young. When i told them he wasn't mine and that i wasn't sure where he lived, they then asked if they could have a diaper and possibly a snack or juice since they weren't sure how long he had been lost or when he had eaten last. Then later that day a local story broke about a mom who had "forgot" her 2 yr old toddler in the car for 2-3 hours and the little girl died. (if you aren't familiar with New Mexico... July and August temperatures peak at around 108 degrees during the day. (here is the video)



If you haven't followed my blog from the start there is something you don't know about my family... and that is that my son was abused by a man i was engaged too I write more about that Here and in the process of me trying to find out the truth from all of the lies ... the state of New Mexico District attorney thought it was necessary to charge me with 1 felony count of child abuse/neglect. The reason: for not seeing the signs of abuse, for not knowing what kind of person he was, and for "putting my son in danger". Now this was difficult... because there are so many back and forth arguments on this topic. But it breaks my heart when my kids are my life and always have been to have this awful charge haunting me ... when there are mothers out there who are truly neglectful. I feel for some of these kids whose parent some how slip through the cracks of the legal system, and for the babies who belong to parents who are truly neglectful. The court spent 3 years and ton of money on prosecuting me. They had no evidence and everything was hear say, however in court they made me feel like a criminal, projecting this image of me watching this man hurt my baby, like i encouraged it and let it happen, when really i was unaware of the situation being that is covered up by lie after lie. It seems that the three years, loads of money and time wasted on me ... the courts could have been focusing on one of the many other child abuse cases that have gone on in the Albuquerque area in the last 3 years.

I hope that we can all take a minute and pray for these babies out there... the ones the courts will miss and as result they will have a tragic ending.

I also want to make it clear... i am not making light of my sons situation... it was awful and tragic and we have been through a lot... but my point of this post is to vent about the children who unfortunately slip through the legal system and end up paying the price. ANd to bring up the controversial question of what is a "neglectful" parent...