So...How do you respond when you get an anonymous comment?? I have seen some bloggers respond not so gracefully, and they end up looking like a fool (with their pants on the ground...sorry...I had to) because they've given they're commenter exactly what they wanted...recognition for their comment!! I'm not saying it's bad if you write a post responding to an anonymous commenter, but please do not ramble on about how mean their comment was and how awful they are and how hurt you are!! It was just a comment!! I'm not denying that they hurt, but the beauty of it is, they are just words, and you don't know who's leaving them!! Anonymous commenters have just as much right to leave a comment on your blog as you do to ignore/delete it. It's a 'blog eat blog world' out there!! If a commenter leaves a constructive comment about something you've written, don't immediately load your rifle to shoot back!!
I have seen where people respond to an anonymous commenter, telling them off to make themselves feel better, but the important thing to remember is, if you have a blog, chances are, you will get an anonymous comment, especially if you have a lot of readers!! Your blog speaks volumes when you get anonymous comments, and you respond gracefully or not at all!! Have you ever heard of killing them with kindness?? Nothing bothers an anonymous commenter more than knowing what they said had no impact when they were expecting a huge reaction!! One of the most graceful responses I have ever seen to an anonymous comment was from Heidi Foreste from As The Foreste Grows!! She has received several rude anonymous comments, but her responses to those people were admirable. She did not rant and rave; she stood firm, proud, and strong!!
The best way you can reduce unwanted comments is to moderate them yourselves. If you don't want them, minimize the chances of getting one!! Nothing is worse than waking up to a rude comment that's already been published!! Moderating your own comments makes you feel like you have more control over what people say. You feel less of a need to retaliate and defend yourself if no one else has seen the comments first. Sometimes the less you say in return is best; remember to be kinder than necessary because everyone is fighting some sort of battle. Try not to let meaningless comments become an unnecessary battle!! Keep blogging for fun; if you get an anonymous comment, try to think where the person is coming from before it destroys your day!! If they are commenting to be mean, let them live with that; if you've offended them with something you've written, take it to heart or ignore them!! It's really that simple!!
I thank Lauren so much for having me over at her blog today!! I enjoyed sharing this post that I'm sure many people can relate to!! I hope y'all get lots of really nice comments today, and I want to send a big thank you to those who always leave me such sweet comments!! :o)
Southern Refelections
19 comments:
I read about that post on her blog a while back I think. I couldn't agree more and think the "killing with kindness" is probably THE best solution out there! I love all of the bloggy friends I have met and hope its a mutual thing :)
Have a great day!
Great timing! I received an Anonymous comment this morning which made me feel quite belittled - it was more the tone of the comment. While it wasn't exactly a nasty comment it did make me wonder why she felt the need to post anonymously. I responded neutrally and am now moderating comments to avoid a repeat. JMO but if you don't like what's been said on a blog, don't read it. I could have easily responded with a mean comment but I'm not like that.
Maybe she didn't like her own hair - they say people tend to point out their own flaws in others.
I've only received a couple of them, but both were very nice! I think that the people who leave mean comments need to rethink why they are reading that blog in the first place. They don't have to read it! It's not theirs.
I have gotten quite a few. I think several of them were from the same person and I was tired of dealing with them. So I changed my settings to only allow comments that people identified themselves in some form. You can set you profile to private if you don't want people reading your blog, but if you have something to say and you don't want to be known for your words then you probably shouldn't say it... but that is just my opinion...
Besides i am trying to create a community of moms, it is kind of hard to do that if you don't want to be acknowledged in some form.
I actually just got my first anonymous hate comment a few days ago!
http://lunaticwhimsy.blogspot.com/2010/09/please-take-time-to-read-this-for-me.html
I did write a post about it, not to rant and rave, just to make sure I cleared up a few things.
Plus in their comment, the Anon named other bloggers who I follow. So I felt by posting the comment and talking about it it would give all of those bloggers the chance to respond as well.
And they did!
They totally invalidated everything Anon said. It was great!
I started reading this and got confused for a minute because I could have sworn that I'd seen this same post on Southern Reflections...silly me! I don't mind anonymous comments right now because mine have been friendly. I opened up to those comments because I have friends that I wanted to comment but didn't necessarily have a blog account or something of that nature. I'm not sure how I'll handle negative comments.
I did get some and they weren't the nicest, but i didn't even moderate them. I just decided not to say anything and act like they didn't exist. They made a rude comment ONE other time, and it hasn't happened in over a month. i think they get bored of being mean if you don't say or do anything. If you moderate, you're telling them it's bothering you, and that's exactly what they want to hear/see.
I wanted to let you know that I gave you a blog award :)
http://threecrazymunchkins.blogspot.com/2010/09/one-thing-that-made-me-smile-today-was.html
Oh man anonymous comments are the worst. My first one they were rudely pointing out how I spelt "Sale" instead of "Sell" on one of my pages. So on my next blog, first thing I wrote was Thank you to the anonymous commenter who pointed out to me that I had spelt sell wrong, I'm sure you know how it goes typing and typing words just start to mix together. And then I deleted their comment, and hoped they would read what I wrote :)
It's unfortunate that people have to go anonymous to leave comments. It's just rude. If someone has nothing nice to say they should probably just not comment at all. I haven't had to deal with any anonymous comments thus far in my blogging and hope I don't have to in the future. I just want to leave a nice comment for you and say thanks for this post. It was interesting to read!
I've received odd comments from people supposedly "making television shows" or wanting me to "join there _____", but that's once in a blue moon. I'd either delete or ignore.
I find it amusing when people send you anonymous mean comments. It's like why did you go through the effort of paying attentiong to my life just to send out hate. It's like, "HELLO?! Get a life". :]
I love your blog!! No mean comments here! :) I gave you an award!
http://3amclothdiapersnopins.blogspot.com/2010/09/some-awesomeness.html
I've had a few blogs over the years and I've received dozens of anonymous comments. In recent years they have been few and far between, thankfully. Most of the time they are obviously meant to be mean or hurtful, but I just find myself shaking my head and rolling my eyes as I delete them. Earlier this year I did respond when someone took something I said out of context and berated me for it...and I even had another blogger back me up (I mean, the person was obviously being b*tchy but was also not making much sense), but it didn't blow up into some big fight or discussion and if it had I would have just deleted all of the comments, including my own, in hopes that the person would go away.
Your post is really informative for people to let them know what is CSS and what is jquery. logo design .
I like your article posting this is really nice article and very informative blog i really like your article, Film & Studio logos .
Thank you very much for posting this article. Its a very useful article. So i want some information about this post. wireless internet in victoria, texas .
Oh my goodness! Thank you so much! They are just beautiful! I will be trying this very soon.
business consultant logo
Great article, it was very helpful! I just started in this and I'm getting to know it better! Cheers, keep up the good work!
Blackberry Application Development
Post a Comment