So...How do you respond when you get an anonymous comment?? I have seen some bloggers respond not so gracefully, and they end up looking like a fool (with their pants on the ground...sorry...I had to) because they've given they're commenter exactly what they wanted...recognition for their comment!! I'm not saying it's bad if you write a post responding to an anonymous commenter, but please do not ramble on about how mean their comment was and how awful they are and how hurt you are!! It was just a comment!! I'm not denying that they hurt, but the beauty of it is, they are just words, and you don't know who's leaving them!! Anonymous commenters have just as much right to leave a comment on your blog as you do to ignore/delete it. It's a 'blog eat blog world' out there!! If a commenter leaves a constructive comment about something you've written, don't immediately load your rifle to shoot back!!
I have seen where people respond to an anonymous commenter, telling them off to make themselves feel better, but the important thing to remember is, if you have a blog, chances are, you will get an anonymous comment, especially if you have a lot of readers!! Your blog speaks volumes when you get anonymous comments, and you respond gracefully or not at all!! Have you ever heard of killing them with kindness?? Nothing bothers an anonymous commenter more than knowing what they said had no impact when they were expecting a huge reaction!! One of the most graceful responses I have ever seen to an anonymous comment was from Heidi Foreste from As The Foreste Grows!! She has received several rude anonymous comments, but her responses to those people were admirable. She did not rant and rave; she stood firm, proud, and strong!!
The best way you can reduce unwanted comments is to moderate them yourselves. If you don't want them, minimize the chances of getting one!! Nothing is worse than waking up to a rude comment that's already been published!! Moderating your own comments makes you feel like you have more control over what people say. You feel less of a need to retaliate and defend yourself if no one else has seen the comments first. Sometimes the less you say in return is best; remember to be kinder than necessary because everyone is fighting some sort of battle. Try not to let meaningless comments become an unnecessary battle!! Keep blogging for fun; if you get an anonymous comment, try to think where the person is coming from before it destroys your day!! If they are commenting to be mean, let them live with that; if you've offended them with something you've written, take it to heart or ignore them!! It's really that simple!!
I thank Lauren so much for having me over at her blog today!! I enjoyed sharing this post that I'm sure many people can relate to!! I hope y'all get lots of really nice comments today, and I want to send a big thank you to those who always leave me such sweet comments!! :o)